每個人都會自憐自哀，有時候會去責備自己的人生，甚至去怪罪命運不公，但是歲月已經(jīng)蹉跎，傷痛已經(jīng)被印刻，怎么辦？ 電影的開頭是平淡的，一個失意絕望充滿對父親憤恨，一個經(jīng)歷坎坷頹廢對愛失去希望的老男人Mathias就這么隨著法國特有的鄉(xiāng)村風情出現(xiàn)，導演慢慢的深入，將這個男人的故事展開……童年缺乏父母的愛，母親有重度抑郁不斷自殺不斷搶救回來造成了青少年時期的憂郁，缺乏安全感，19歲親眼看見母親自殺而亡，一生傷痛，隨后自殺未成，成年時3次婚姻的失敗，酗酒，頹廢，失去愛與被愛的權(quán)利，渴望溫情但又把失敗者的標簽貼在自己的靈魂里，生活的起伏跌宕給了他良好的教養(yǎng)和狡黠的經(jīng)驗，看他迫不及待的想要賣房甚至去問Mathild夫人的私人醫(yī)生Mathild夫人身體狀況如何多么迫不及待的希望Mathild夫人早點歸西，導演這里處理的很有意思，Mathias的演員也把老男人的滑頭，敏感，刻畫得栩栩如生……當Mathias找到照片的一刻開始，電影慢慢將鏡頭的重心轉(zhuǎn)到Mathild夫人身上，Mathias與Mathild夫人的幾段對手戲都非常經(jīng)典，沒有歇斯底里的發(fā)泄，只有深切的悲傷，壓抑的痛苦，Mathild夫人說Mathias的名字是根據(jù)自己的名字起的時候，那種甜蜜和后面發(fā)現(xiàn)Mathias的母親去世時的痛苦多么矛盾，Mathild夫人一生都在愛Mathias的父親，在她眼里，這個人是帶著光輝的，她沒有意識或者說不愿意去面對她間接對Mathias的傷害對Mathias母親的傷害，但她一直內(nèi)疚，她以愛為榮，她以愛為恥，于是有了對愛情的放縱和對家庭的妥協(xié)，她勇敢去愛，她為愛妥協(xié)，當她知道Mathias曾經(jīng)自殺，她觸動很大，當她知道Mathias的母親是自殺的，她情緒崩潰了……經(jīng)歷過那么多的她，懂得愛的慈悲，她對Mathias和自己女兒之間的感情，明知他們有可能是兄妹她說：“I don’t think the world will come to end because of that. I see nothing catastrophic in the two of you comforting each other. No virtue in two of you being lonely.” 對這段話仁者見仁智者見智。Mathild夫人不相信他們是兄妹。關(guān)于亂倫說的那就是放屁。可惜還是不少衛(wèi)道士將狹隘的目光放在這個上面。故事將要步入Mathild夫人女兒的道德說與負面情緒爆發(fā)的前夕時，一聲槍響，就如春天的驚雷一樣，打碎所有負面情緒，然后春雨滋潤大地，萬物復蘇，電影到了末尾，甩開傷痛。電影里有很多線索，幾條暗線需要看的人慢慢的品味，其中有一條線索貫穿了全劇，Mathias的父親，他當然是值得被愛的，但是他的愛只給了Mathild夫人，他對Mathias母親的傷害與愧疚也是沒有辦法彌補的，關(guān)于這種矛盾，有誰能分清出對與錯呢最后，時光已逝，只爭朝夕，“I’m not beautiful. I’m nearly old.”正是如此，不再在過去傷痛沉溺，走向陽光，就算已經(jīng)不再年輕，還不晚不是么？PS:附加一段很有意義的獨白，也許會有你自己感悟。“My name is Mathias Gold. When I used to have friends, they called me Jim, and I would answer. I grew up on Park Avenue in New York City. My parents were wealthy. I was born with a silver knife in my back. Anytime anyone follows their heart, someone else gets their heart broken. There’s always detritus, always hurt, always pain. Love is a limited substance. When you give love to someone new, you have to take it away from someone old. My father took every ounce of love he had and dumped it in Paris. People like us think we've been cursed by God, but, in fact, we've been cursed by our parents. You look in the mirror, and you see an adult. But you have to look more carefully. There's a big piece of you that never grew up. It may have grown tall, but not up. You spend your life waiting for your parents to come back and make it all right. But they don't come back. It's not all right. You have to somehow move past them. You have to somehow convince yourself that you don't need those people, because you don't.”